Some of the folks I follow post some really incredible things about race and sexuality that I agree with, but don’t feel comfortable reblogging. I worry that I would be stepping on their space or claiming something that isn’t mine, since I’m a bisexual cis white woman.
So if you post stuff that’s dropping some truth and beauty bombs, please know I agree with you… I just don’t want to appropriate your truth and beauty.
I totally respect this even though my personal take is different. I believe that when something resonates with me, or shows me something I didn’t even know I didn’t know, or just body-checks me right in my privilege/feels, I have to share it if I can because other people might get something out of it, too. Coming from a very similar background to the original poster.
I wrestled with myself all this afternoon about sharing it and/or giving my take. ”Am I wrong? I could be wrong. It wouldn’t be the first time. Is she wrong? Does she have to be wrong for me to feel comfortable with my choices and hers? Is it a personal thing, where we’re in different places emotionally/intellectually/spiritually/politically? Does someone have to be right? Is it an age thing? (I’m 37.)” I haven’t answered them all, but I think neither of us is wrong.
I think it’s important that we try hard not to practice appropriation of the culture, struggles, outlook of other people, no matter how different from or alike to us they are. I also think it’s important that we learn as much about the actual realities of other peoples’ lives as we can, as much as they’re willing to share and we can absorb.
I was raised to believe and believe as an adult that we are precisely the same under the skin, under our cultural or physical differences. We could have been born as each other as easily as we were as ourselves. Ignoring or minimizing your plight is tantamount to dehumanizing myself, and vice versa. Holding myself to a greater or lesser standard than that to which I hold you is patronizing and evil.
I don’t have a conclusion or wrap-up. Just rambling my way to the end of my thoughts on the subject, in order to hear myself say what I think.